Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamour and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4: 29-32
Two years after the birth of my 3rd child I found out that I was pregnant and under pressure from my husband, I had an abortion. A year later the same thing happened. I fell into a deep depression, but by the grace of God I was saved out of darkness into His marvellous light and became a Christian. Many transformations took place in my life, but when I heard these verses preached, I realised that I still held onto a lot of bitterness and anger towards my husband, and that I tended to speak badly about him to our children and my friends. I knew that God was calling me to forgive him and to let all bitterness be put away from me and to stop speaking badly about him. God is so kind and gentle with us and calls us by His spirit to obey his word. Since I forgave my husband in my heart, I am able to see him as God sees him and I am a much better witness at home.
Lord, thank you for your word with teaches us and for your spirit who guides us. Thank you that you care about us and want to make us more like Jesus, who forgave us while we were still sinners, because he loved us. Give us the strength to obey your word and forgive the people who have caused us to be bitter, angry or frustrated, knowing that you see into all men’s hearts and will judge the peoples with equity.